When you speak to a person in private about a hurtful or oppressive thing they’ve done or said. It is a less reactionary approach when it comes to conflict.  

Use when:

• There is an opportunity to explore deeper, make meaning together, and find a mutual sense of understanding across difference.
• We are seeking to understand or learn more.
• We want to help imagine different perspectives, possibilities, or outcomes
• It provides for multiple perspectives and encourages paradigm shifts
• the focus is on reflection, not reaction Is not just a suggestion with an uptick (Don’t you think you should…?)

Also see: Call-out

References

• When to call someone out or call them in over racist behavior, Jewell, T.,KFED, 2020.
• Interrupting bias: Calling out vs. calling in, Rebecca Eunmi Haslam, Seed the Way LLC,  2018.